Took My Tip Back After the Waiter’s Rude Behavior

One of our readers, Emily, recently shared a letter with us recounting a restaurant visit that raises significant questions about tipping practices, customer service, and handling conflicts.

Here’s her detailed story:

Last night, I (32F) went to a fine dining establishment with my partner (32M) to celebrate his recent promotion. The evening was going splendidly until the end, when the server’s behavior completely spoiled the experience.

When the bill arrived, I added a $10 tip to the $85 check. As the server collected the payment, she scoffed and loudly remarked, “Ten dollars? This isn’t the 1950s, you know.”

I was taken aback. Her tone was incredibly patronizing and rude. My partner looked at her in shock.

“Excuse me?” I responded, feeling instantly irritated. “I believe $10 on an $85 bill is quite fair.”

The server dramatically rolled her eyes. “The standard tip is 20% these days, cheapskate. Don’t you know how to calculate that?”

I couldn’t believe her arrogant attitude. The $10 was over 11%, which is a reasonable tip by any standard. Her entitlement was infuriating.

“You know what,” I snapped, losing my patience. “With such a nasty attitude, you don’t deserve a tip at all!”

I quickly reached over and took back the $10 bill. The server’s jaw dropped, and she started hurling insults at me, causing a scene. Other diners turned to stare at the commotion. My partner was embarrassed.

Eventually, the manager had to intervene and remove the out-of-control server, who was still shouting at me. We ended up leaving without tipping.

I admit I might have overreacted, but her smug and condescending behavior absolutely enraged me. After treating a customer so disrespectfully, she didn’t deserve any extra compensation. However, I’ve been receiving mixed opinions on whether I should have just let it go instead of causing a scene. What are your thoughts?