Spotting a Narcissist: The 6 Signs You Can’t Miss!

Have you ever called someone a narcissist for snatching the last cookie or not holding the door? It seems like everyone gets labeled a narcissist these days. But how can you really tell if someone close to you, like your partner, your in-law, or even your boss, is actually a narcissist and not just a bit careless?

Caroline Strawson, a trauma coach and author of “How To Heal After Narcissistic Abuse,” shares six clear warning signs that might mean you’re dealing with a true narcissist. Get ready, because some of these might surprise you!

They Never Say Sorry

First up, narcissists just can’t apologize. If they’ve upset you, somehow it’s always your fault. “You made me do it because you said that!” sound familiar? While most of us might cool off after a spat and eventually say sorry, narcissists won’t. In their world, they’re never to blame.

Dr. Jekyll in Public, Mr. Hyde in Private

Narcissists can charm everyone at a party, making you the odd one out. They might pick at you in private until you’re all riled up, then switch on their charm like a light bulb in public, leaving you looking like the bad guy. Their ability to flip-flop between personas makes it hard for others to see the real them. “But they’re so nice,” people will say, not seeing the control behind the curtain.

The Takeaway

Being around a narcissist can be a tricky and often disheartening experience. They’re masters of manipulation, making it challenging to expose their true nature. If you recognize these behaviors in someone close to you, it might be time to take a closer step and consider how it’s affecting your life. Remember, you’re not the problem, and support is out there.