My Girlfriend’s Hygiene Is Terrible, I Told Her, but Her Response Was Surprising

A 24-year-old woman recently shared on Reddit about an issue she’s facing with her girlfriend. She deeply cares for her, yet one problem is affecting their otherwise perfect relationship. The woman pointed out that her girlfriend struggles with maintaining good hygiene, which she has tried addressing. However, her partner’s reaction to these conversations has been unusual, leaving the woman unsure of her approach and seeking advice from others.

From their very first date, the woman noticed her girlfriend’s lax attitude towards cleanliness. She explained in her Reddit post, “I 24F have been dating my gf 22F for nearly two years. She’s amazing and I love her dearly. Right from our first date, I could tell she wasn’t too focused on being clean.”

The issue became apparent when they went to have a snack at her girlfriend’s place. The woman described, “After our date, we picked up some snacks. When we got to her house, she started unpacking everything without washing her hands first.”

This habit concerns the woman as she feels it’s harming their relationship. She recounted an incident where her girlfriend offered her some food in a way that made her uncomfortable, “She excitedly tried to get me to taste some jelly by putting her finger in the jar and offering it to me.”

This situation left the woman feeling uneasy, especially after spending the day touching various things around the city. Her girlfriend acknowledged it was unhygienic but still didn’t wash her hands.

The problem has persisted throughout their relationship. The woman lamented, “To this day, she hardly ever washes her hands properly, often just using water, and that too after I ask several times. She goes about her day, even uses the bathroom, and doesn’t wash her hands.”

Her girlfriend’s disregard for basic hygiene extends to other areas as well. “She likes to pick up random things we find on our walks, like old toys and clothes, even if they are dirty. She rarely showers, about twice a week, and doesn’t use soap unless I help her with it, which she enjoys,” the woman added.

Health concerns are growing for the woman. “It bothers me because she cooks, dips her fingers into food jars, drinks directly from bottles, and often touches my face. Frankly, she also smells bad and is constantly getting sick,” she explained.

Her attempts to discuss hygiene gently have only caused her girlfriend to become very emotional, feeling accused of being disgusting. The woman expressed her frustration, “After she complained about being sick again, I suggested her poor hygiene might be the reason. She became very upset and now cries whenever I bring up anything related to washing. She used to just laugh it off, but now it really affects her.”

The woman is confused and feels guilty, unsure of what to do next, even though she believes she hasn’t done anything wrong.